It’s the curse of the teenage girl, isn’t it? Ridiculed at every corner. God forbid a teenage girl could have a passion for anything. God forbid a teenage girl could know what she wants.
It’s a fucking curse. You fall in love, it’s bullshit. You’re talented, it’s bullshit. You love something, bullshit. You care about something, bullshit. You destroy something bullshit. Something kills you, bullshit!
We’re all so trivial. Nothing we say has any weight, any precedence. Because we don’t know shit.
What do we like? Who cares. What do we love? Who fucking cares. We hate ourselves and we’re called dramatic and self-obsessed. We love ourselves and we’re called dramatic and self-obsessed. Since when was loving yourself a character flaw? Fuck. I think it’s astounding. Why wouldn’t you want to raise a generation of strong, proud girls? I know why, because you’re fucking scared, and you don’t even realise it. Somewhere, in the back of your head, past all the patriarchal bullshit, you know what we’re capable of. And don’t look at me like that, I know what the patriarchy is, and that’s exactly my fucking point. You underestimate us, you reduce us down to silly little girls.
In the back of your head, you’re scared for us to have voices, you don’t want us to have power. Because then, then we’ll speak up about the shit you put us through. And you know what? If you don’t educate us, if you refuse to educate us, we’ll educate ourselves.
I am so, so sick of this biased crazy bitch-teenager idea. Being passionate doesn’t make us crazy. And even if we are crazy, so fucking what? It’s you who made us like this.
You, who raised your daughter to keep her voice down. You, who taught her it’s better to be meek. You, who told her she just drunk too much, helped her throw out her ripped underwear, and never thought to ask questions. You, who told her sex was an obligation. And you, for telling her it’s a bargaining tool. Her desires aren’t natural. Don’t act, don’t speak. Repress, repress, repress. Repent, repent, repent. Be ashamed. Shut your mouth.
You shut it for her though.
Every lesson, every time you ignored her need, you plucked out another vocal chord. And you kept going and you kept teaching until her throat was empty, and you stole her words and threw her voice box down a fucking well so no one would ever hear her speak again. And you think we’re the crazy ones? You’re draining the life from you daughter so you can stick it in a glass vial and give it to your son in law.
You want us to be meek? You want us to be quiet. We’re fucking monsters. You made us, you’ve silenced us, and now we’re going to scream and scream until you notice.
- The curse of the teenage girl - J.M
It’s fine for men to watch shojo anime and read shojo manga like Sailor Moon and Cardcaptor Sakura.
It’s fine for men to make pornographic doujinshi of these, buy figurines, and jack off to the characters.
It’s fine for men to completely invade a Pretty Cure forum created for young girls and scare said girls away. It’s fine for these men to twist the entire fandom around themselves, its fine for them to show up to Pretty Cure events in throngs and its fine for them to frantically grab all the free handouts before any of the girls can.
It’s also fine for men to take these magical girl anime made for girls that celebrate being a girl and make them all about their pornography and which girl they most want to put their dick in. It’s fine, because theres even a cute name for them, ‘Ooki Tomodachi’ (Big Friend).
It’s fine for them to do the same with My Little Pony, of course. It’s fine that they can make the voice actors of the show uncomfortable with personal questions, its fine that they can yell out rape jokes to them at conventions, its fine that they have basically made it impossible for any of the 8 year old girls the show was made for to ever google it in public. It’s fine for them to gather in the toy stores around the pony toys and intimidate young girls. It’s fine that the whole show, created to celebrate femininity and how ‘theres no wrong way to be a girl’ is now associated with their fetishes. And its so fine that these male fans get given a cute name (‘brony’), get documentaries made about them, have newspaper article after blog post after feature talking about how they are ‘challenging gender norms’ and ‘transforming pop culture’.
But if a girl ‘trespasses’ into a male space, what happens? (Even when it isnt ‘trespassing’, in the case of Free!, in which a space was actually made for us ) We can expect such timeless classics as: degradation, ‘you’re not even a REAL fan!’ ‘I bet you dont even know ______’, all kinds of threats, and, of course, the posts you see on this blog.
i hate how people directly compare the sexualization that men do to women to the sexualization that women do to men, in our forms of entertainment.
because firstly, the sexualization of women has been an ongoing thing that has had real legitimate life altering effects on women and men alike.
secondly, sexualization of women is usually very gratuitous in nature. while a good portion of sexualization of men is not actually intentional and is taken away from something despite the efforts of the creators. to simplify… any sexualization that is happening was not the intended result at all
thirdly. a lot of what people call sexualization of men is also a male power fantasy. and a lot of that sexualization comes from the character choosing to welcome that kind of gaze and probably, in story, receiving a lot of womanly attention for it. while most cases of sexualizing women are not done at the characters decision and are usually just shots of them as if the camera or audience’s eye are voyeurs. and they will often face very negative attention for this, in story and by fans
fourthly. on the male power fantasy. the men are usually depicted in “strong” poses and mannerisms that give the men reading a sense of that. they can easily fantasize about becoming that character or seeing that character in a positive heroic light. Despite any sexualization a person attracted to the male body might take away. NOT SO WITH A LOT OF WOMEN.
women are reduced to sexual objects. men can be sexualized yet still retain their personalities. strengths and weaknesses. my personal experience with fans, a good portion of fans i’ve encountered who may sexualize men, can still sit back and engage with the character on a real character level. while the women who are sexualized rarely ever get this treatment and are only looked at when wanting to discuss tits and ass
lol he just said he doesn’t really feel like talking to me anymore and ‘maybe i thought too highly of you’
or maybe maybe you just assigned me traits that you think are ideal and the real me doesn’t match the perfect me that you made up in your head, how about that, because i read your thirty-paragraph profile about yourself (as opposed to the kind of one paragraph you read about me) and i’m not seeing the common ground
arguing with some dipshit on okcupid about justin bieber and misgendering and binary gender roles, aw yeah this is how i spend my nights
If we learned anything from the Mayans, it’s that if you don’t finish something, it’s not the end of the world.
Straight: My cake is chocolate.
Bisexual: My cake is chocolate and vanilla.
Transgendered: My cake may have vanilla frosting but its a chocolate cake inside.
Pansexual: My cake has both vanilla and chocolate frosting and vanilla and chocolate inside.
Homophobia: Only chocolate cakes can be eaten.
Asexual : I don't enjoy cake
you can be a fan of a show and point out its flaws
you can enjoy something and still criticize it
discussing issues which are necessary to be talked about is as much part of a fandom as anything else and has nothing to do with fighting
the idea of a fandom is that you are more than a passive consumer who accepts things mindlessly
idealizing things is unhealthy and gives you a skewed view of reality
His exact words were, “A fucking reset button? Like fuck am I coming back to canonically nullify my character arc.” I still can’t figure out what he meant by that.
Steven Moffat, on Christopher Eccleston’s absence from the 50th Anniversary. (via moffatsays)
HAHAHAHA! New favorite blog for a minute.